Yesterday I saw an article about Brock Turner’s friend.
“OMG,” she exclaimed with her EQ of -134, “Guys need to stop being so politically correct – just because you raped someone doesn’t mean you’re a RAPIST!”
But that’s not even what this article is about. I’m not going to talk about rape, or even about feminism. Gasp! I know. There’s actually another issue with this situation – and it’s a subtle one: I want to talk about the idea of someone being “too sensitive”, and how there seems to be this opinion floating around that this generation is generally weaker than the older ones.
Now, I’ve been called “sensitive” my entire life. Never in a positive context. That’s ok.
Where I’ve not grown in skin-thickness, I have in strength, and so I decided to write this major middle finger of an article to the people who complain about people who are sensitive.
This generation is fucked
“This generation asks for a safe space; my grandfather fought wars and defended his family. Sensitive people need to grow a pair.”
Your grandfather was probably also insensitive to his wife’s needs, a major product of patriarchal views, and would probably be a Trump supporter if he was young today. He – like you – will be the kind of person your great-grandkids will be ashamed of for having archaic and bigoted views. Sweeping generalisation, sorry.
But the point is this: most people don’t really realise how LUCKY we are in this generation.
To think that we are worse off in this generation is a statement of ignorance that belongs in the cesspool that the KKK stemmed from. No, the world isn’t pretty right now – but we are more aware of people’s feelings, and learning to respect and tolerate others is high on the agenda of humanity right now.
Do you not understand that the inclusion of so many minorities, and the fights for awareness – these are good things? Are you seriously that opposed to the idea of a safe space for people to share their true identity, and that it’s a good thing that boys today are able to find places where they can understand their emotions without being seen as weak? Do you know how much more emotionally intelligent 15 year olds are today than they ever were in previous generations?
Sorry your privilege blinds you.
Losers can’t empathise
Do people not understand that NOT being in touch with your own feelings is a crutch – not a gift? Are they unaware that their inability to empathise with others who don’t perceive like they do is not something to be proud of?
Anyone who feels that people should “just be able to” react to things the way they do, the people who laugh at “trigger warnings” because they aren’t triggered – these people lack a skill called “empathy”, and I would advise that you stay as far away from them as possible.
Those people are usually the ones who surround themselves with other “thick-skinned” people, where they have parties of negativity (and yes, I have noticed a correlation between those who put the sensitive down, and their own level of positive speech). These people’s assumption that everyone should be the same – like them – and that anyone who doesn’t do so is “wrong” or deserves to be laughed at… Oh boy, I could go into all the psychological warning signs, but let’s just say they probably wouldn’t make a good romantic partner to anyone. Except for someone as insensitive as themselves.
Nice people who only like people who think like them are actually not nice
I mean, isn’t that obvious?
If someone says they can’t stand over-sensitive people, as they roll their eyes and breathe their privileged air, let’s dissect the actual meaning of that sentence, before we agree wholeheartedly in a primal attempt to bond with someone we consider an alpha because of their showcasing of gigantic emotional balls.
Those aren’t balls, by the way. That’s a cage.
By saying that you don’t connect with people who feel more than you do, are you not simply saying that you are so disconnected with your own feelings, that the idea of someone else truly feeling theirs makes you uncomfortable??
Don’t get me wrong. There are many, many, many people who claim sensitivity as a cry for attention, and who seriously need to do some inner work to realise that their pain is all in their heads. Yes, the world does contain people like this. Heck, I was once one of them.
But unless you are in their heads, you have no idea whether they are attention seekers or genuinely feel and sense more than you do. So to state that you don’t like them just because you cannot or will not relate to them… Well, sorry to break it to ya:
This generation isn’t fucked – you are.
The best response to give a person who tells you to grow a pair
This is fun. I came up with this yesterday, and I’m pretty proud of it.
The next time someone points out how sensitive you are, and tells you you probably need to grow a thicker skin, ask them – all-wise guru of thick skins – to point out what you should do. They’re so practical and all-knowing, right? You want to bask in their intelligence, and therefore would like three tips (or make up some other number that feels right) that can get you on the path to insensitivity right now.
Well, I guess they don’t understand human beings that well then, do they?
I mean, if you’re going to dish out criticism willy-nilly, at least have the balls (ha-ha) to back those statements up with concrete and practical tips.
But usually these self-appointed critics of the human spectrum of emotion have no idea how to practically become less sensitive – because they haven’t been where you are and therefore have no idea that there even is a spectrum.
This is a dangerous sort of person to be near.
(But more importantly: Ignore them.)
Just know that their desire to mould you, stems from an ignorance about anything outside their own experience set – and should be ignored and discarded as nothing more than a useless opinion from someone who wants to make external noise instead of listening to their own internal music.